The participants in this edition of ‘BBB’ have been involved in a lot of disagreements and confusion, especially after the “Sincerão” dynamic, in which they are invited to speak truths that are not very pleasant to their confinement colleagues. The chances of misunderstandings are high when we bring together people who don’t know each other for a long time, as each of them has a way of looking at the world and their own way of being and being in it. This clash of experiences is evident in each edition of Big Brother Brasil and, this time, it has been no different.
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In the last dynamic of “Sincerão”, the atmosphere heated up with accusations and provocations, mainly between Davi and MC Bin Laden. Without creating a space for conversation, the two almost started physical aggression, which was only avoided due to the interference of housemates and a warning from the “big boss”.
The frequent scenes of conflict may shock viewers, but they also provoke reflection: how can we seek dialogue in these scenarios? Reality can, more than just entertain, make us realize how socio-emotional education is essential for better coexistence in all spheres of our lives.
“In these encounters with the different, we need to increase the repertoire of solutions. We can calmly consider how we would act and, by opening space for non-conflictual communication, ask what were the reasons that led the person to react that way”, suggests Maira Maia, pedagogical supervisor at LIV, a socio-emotional education program present in more than 600 schools in Brazil.
After all, we don’t need to be isolated in a reality show to find people who think differently. Whether in the workplace, at school or even within our own homes, we are all invited to interact with people and backgrounds different from our own, leaving our vulnerabilities exposed, testing our limits, our patience and encouraging us to find ways to resolve conflicts based on of dialogue and non-violent communication.
Socio-emotional skills, such as communication, self-regulation and empathy, are essential for possible conflicts, in any environment, to be resolved in the best way, according to the expert. For Maira, creating an opening for dialogue is the first step.
“It takes a lot of real listening, understanding who the other person is, what they bring, what they want to say, being open. This doesn’t mean changing who you are or what you think, but learning about each other. Sometimes what it brings ends up reinforcing our certainties. But there is always some learning,” he says.
But, it is not easy to create an environment of harmony. This requires that all parties are willing to, more than just listen, actually actively listen, which means trying to understand the emotions of others and finding ways to validate them.
Talking is easier and, therefore, conflicts often end up becoming an endless “squabble”, but, as the pedagogue highlights, it is possible to practice initiatives on a daily basis that help promote healthier and more empathetic relationships.
First, we need to understand our feelings. What do we feel when we are nervous? What calms us? How can I calmly show someone else what bothered me? Emotional literacy is fundamental to establishing non-violent communication, as using this skill we will be able to name and recognize our sensations.
“Once we understand what we are feeling, we will find it easier to sit down and talk to each other. And, from then on, we need to listen without judging, without interrupting and asking why she felt bad about my stance and suggesting ways to find solutions together”, suggests Maira.
