‘She’s amazing and smart – but I don’t have the hots for her. And now?’ – 09/03/2022

‘She’s amazing and smart – but I don’t have the hots for her. And now?’ – 09/03/2022
‘She’s amazing and smart – but I don’t have the hots for her. And now?’ – 09/03/2022

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About 6 months ago I broke up with my ex, who was beautiful and physically wonderful, but with whom I didn’t really have much in common other than a huge sexual attraction. Now I met a woman with whom I have a great connection in ideas, I love her company, but I really don’t have much of a turn on her. Is it worth trying or better following as friends when that physical attraction is lacking? A kiss, I love her column!
– or one or the other

– Dear Or one or the other,
I think you don’t have to settle for just having one aspect of a relationship – either sexual attraction or intellectual exchange. Of course, there are women out there who will be compatible with you in both categories. At the same time, I don’t think you need to make any decisions right now. Give your current affair some time, talk a lot, go out, have fun together. Maybe at some point this attraction you feel for her brain will spread to other parts of her body. It might as well not. In this case, you will feel like ending the relationship, as you cannot create desire where there is none. I’m sure you’ll know when to make that decision.

Hello, If Advice Were Good. So, I’ve been dating for 4 years and my boyfriend received a job offer in the south of the country. He asked for my opinion, as to whether I want him to stay or go. I even want him to go, because I know it will be good for him, but I think I’m afraid for myself, because I’m afraid to leave my city and go after him.
– More lost than blind in firefight

– Face More lost than blind in shooting,
Overall, I’m not in favor of someone dropping everything they have to follow someone else’s dreams: change has to be very well thought out and contemplate the desires of both, otherwise it’s a perfect formula for resentment and frustration. At the same time, I don’t know any details about your case. Some important questions you should consider: to accompany him, are you going to quit your job or your career? The idea is that you are financially dependent on him? (And here I give a warning sign: don’t do that. Having your own money is a guarantee that you can relate on an equal footing). You’ve been together for 4 years, but do you have plans for the future? Did they talk about moving in together or getting married? Is there anything that attracts you to this region of the country? All this must be thrown into the balance, so that you don’t paralyze your life and end up staying at home waiting for your boyfriend to come back from work. Of course, adaptations and changes are worth it in the name of great love, and if you have plans to build a life together, this has to be thought through – but the conditions need to be good for you too.

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